The simple pleasure of literature

They always move things around on me. I think it’s a ploy to keep me there longer, trying to find my way through the shelves twice my height. Actually, it might be that I don’t come in often enough. With every visit, I wonder why it’s been so long. No other place makes me feel as surrounded by brilliance. By history, by love, by faraway places, and by things I’ll never even know about because I won’t have a chance to go through it all.

One step into a bookstore and I’m like a kid in Toys “R” Us. I walk around in wonder, taking my time. I look for the perfect item to take home because this is a treat. It’s not every day I get to spend time in such a special place.

I usually peruse the New Fiction, Humor, and Literature Studies sections. I go through the rows carefully, running my fingers along the spine of each book as I read its title. I’ll even get on hands and knees to appropriately assess the bottom shelf. I’m so discriminating about the design I might miss out on a good book because the casing doesn’t draw me in. The coloring, the imagery, the type treatment – all of it should come together to create a style so captivating that I can’t help myself.

When I’ve found one worthy of a closer look, I tip the top corner toward me then pull it from between its neighbors that don’t seem to want to give it up (jealous, I’m sure). I look at the cover a second then flip to read the back. I hate when the back is crowded with nothing but reviews from every newspaper with the word Times in the title. Sure, it might be a charming anthology, or a terrific debut, or even a book for the ages, but I’d like to understand what these 342 pages entail before I’m willing to care how they were interpreted by someone else.

After the back, I dive in to a few chapters at random. Nothing else quite smells or feels the way a book does. The smell is like that of sawdust long settled on a workshop floor. The smooth, soft paperback cover like thick tissue paper. Flipping the pages, it’s as if the same paper variety and weight has been used for every book printed in the last hundred years. I’m not talking coffee table books or textbooks here – those are far less magical, what with their glossy pages and charts and pictures. A real book doesn’t need pictures. It needs to be unusual, enlightening, and full of heart.

With most of them, I don’t get past the second paragraph of a chapter. This always reminds me of the importance of great openings to any piece of writing. If I haven’t been hooked, I gently spread apart the books that have fallen together in its absence and put it back.

With every return to the shelf, my disappointment grows along with my eagerness to find one worth keeping. As I search relentlessly for the next author I hope to stir my soul and make me think differently, I realize that everyone around me is doing the same. For the time these people are here, they’re removing themselves from the complexities of everyday life to appreciate the simple pleasure of literature.

The authors of these books have created something bigger than themselves. They’ve created whole worlds or new ways of looking at our world. And brought characters to life in so real a manner that we feel we know them better than our closest friends. The stories they’ve constructed have the potential to touch people for decades, or even centuries.

{photo credit: brewbooks flickr}


I’m a me, damn it.

I don’t know if I’ve watched too many movies, heard too many song lyrics or read too many books, but I have this expectation that my life should come together like some kind of enthralling screenplay. When I have to do something mundane, I turn into a six-year-old playing make believe. I pretend to be a character in a movie and that as soon as this boring scene is over, something extraordinary is going to happen. I’m going to get on a jet to some Greek island. Or get a call from an unknown number only to be offered my dream job. Or maybe someone is going to throw me a surprise party. Not one of those things has happened yet, but I like to think that someday one just might.

As you get older it seems less and less likely that such stories are possible. As a kid, I thought that adulthood meant freedom to do whatever you want, whenever you want. Even as you go through college, you feel like there’s this promise of something amazing on the other side of that degree. A few years out of school you realize that with adulthood comes not freedom, but more stress than you ever imagined. And while you’re stressing, everyone around you seems to be buying up houses, getting dogs, having babies, and getting married (not necessarily in that order). And you have debt to pay, a job that extracts all your energy, and distant memories of how easy you had it once upon a time. You got what you wanted, but it wasn’t what you expected. You’re suddenly making a routine Sunday Target run and looking forward to watching reruns of Friends, which – oddly enough – is what you thought your late twenties would be like. Wrong.

Real responsibility snuck in from nowhere and smacked you in the face. Hard. Depleting you of all your spontaneity. And this shortage of spontaneity seems to be linked to an abundance of committed relationships. Once your friends have found someone they think could be the one, they go into a sort of nesting mode. They forfeit the mind of their own they once had in favor of a shared brain that, when asked what they are doing tonight, replies, “I’m not sure we have any plans.” Ah, yes, We. How could I forget? You are not you anymore. You are We. And I bet We doesn’t feel like getting her big girl panties on and going out sans dude.

It seems the We mentality is stronger with the ladies. Men aren’t as concerned, usually. For them, talking as a We would mean they’ve lost a portion of their masculinity. But girls are ready to give up their chickhood at a moment’s notice. Five dates and suddenly she doesn’t know if she can make plans because he might call. And since he might be the future We, you as a fellow she should understand. I don’t understand. Maybe this is why I’ve historically had more guy friends.

Guys are simple. Or, well, simpler than girls. I should know. I grew up outnumbered by my dad and brother and I’m fairly certain that their dude-mindedness wore off on me. They are the reason I choose beer over wine, baseball over ballet, and friends over boyfriends. I mean, not always. But as often as is necessary to maintain independent thought. It seems there’s this expectation that once you are part of a We, you must ask permission to be you. I don’t want to ask permission to be me. I just want to be me and not have to justify it. If I want to take a three-hour drive around the city and then eat out by myself, I shouldn’t have to answer why. Because I want to, that’s why. I think guys assume all girls have the We mindset, so the ones who don’t are treated as if there’s something wrong with them.

Where are you going?

Places.

What are you doing?

Things.

With who?

Myself.

Why?

Why not?

Um, because you’re a girl and girls travel in packs of at least two. Even to the bathroom.

I go to the bathroom on my own, thanks.

I sound like some kind of feminist. I am girl, hear me be my own person. I’m not pro-girl or pro-dude. I’m pro-have-your-own-thoughts-and-plans-and-life. That doesn’t mean you can’t be part of someone else’s version of those things. Just think how much more interesting your conversations would be if you had separate experiences to share. It would be like first dates all over again. Or like catching up with friends you haven’t talked with in a while. Those are the kind of conversations I want to have. The kind where you learn something new. The kind that cause you to pause and think differently about things. The kind you can only have if you don’t know every move the other person made that day.

I think that the only way to be a good We is to continue to be a me. And being me means I can still hope for that once seemingly attainable storybook life. I’m the main character, damn it, and I want the magic. I want music to play as I walk down First Avenue with my morning coffee in hand, boots stomping heel-toe, heel-toe on the sidewalk. I want to meet my favorite people for happy hour at least twice a week and talk for hours about nonsense and about life and about things that make us happy. And I want it to be sunny every day, and if not every day then at least on the days when I need it to pick me up.